I read your blog, Oct. 10 will be 19 yrs. since Cody died and my Dad 7 weeks later. That fog to me, I explain to others it's a kind of shock, a protective state that God put's us in. It is like you are standing outside your body looking at... everything going on but to you it doesn't seem real. When that passes you are totally dependent on God to get you through. The fog or shock is a gift from God to get us through the most difficult days of disbelief. After that, all I asked of God was the strenght to make it daily and he never let me down and still he blesses me daily with strenght to get through. We serve an awesome God. Kim I find journaling the best thing and still do it.
Kim Giana Ray Moody Thanks Paula for sharing a part of your story with me. God does get us through those difficult days of disbelief. I don't know how those without God in their life can deal with things. I can't imagine not having hope. My Dad passed away 5 months before Robert's death. We found out 2 days after his funeral that Robert was dying. Consequently, I never really got to grieve the loss of my Dad at the age of almost 91. But I KNOW we will be together again, one day, in God's perfect timing.
Melanie Henderson Erxleben You both know that I also know, and totally agree with, your explanation of how the death of someone so very close to you effects you. Almost 5 years for me, and I am doing better, but realize it's something I'll never get over. I too get comfort in writing down my thoughts and feelings. Love you both!
Paula Colleen Covart I love you Mel, losing your child is the hardest. I am happy you are doing better and I know you will never get over it and no one would expect you to. So we have our days we can cry one minute and laugh another, but the the hardest are the days that just get hold of us and we just can't seem to shake it off and nothing or no one can make it better. God is with us each and every minute and he knows and understands us when no one else seems to. You and Kim are so precious and I am so blessed to have reconnected with you two.
Melanie, thanks for sharing your heart with us. Losing a child is a grief that I cannot fathom. Since 1995, I've had to say "goodbye" to 10 of the significant adults in my life - my grandmother & favorite aunt, 2 more aunts, my father-in-l...aw, my mother-in-law, my precious mother, my 2nd mother-in-law, then my wonderful, Godly father, and then my husband. But a child is a loss, so deep that it is uniquely different from all other losses, even the intimacy that comes from a spouse. I am glad that you write your thoughts, too. Expressing our feelings with words is a tremendously healthy and helpful thing to do. Love you. And I agree with Paula, we are indeed blessed to have reconnected with each other
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